What is Emotional Intelligence/Importance OR SIGNIFICANCE of Emotional Intelligence/model of EI

 What is Emotional Intelligence 

Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the capability to find out, know, and use your own feelings or sentiments  in constructive ways to release stress and anxiety, interconnect effectually, understand others, deal with challenges in healthy way, and resolve conflicts. 

Attributes of Emotional Intelligence 

To build happy and healthy interpersonal relations you must have emotional intelligence skill Emotional intelligence is commonly defined by four attributes:

Self-controlling: A person with Emotional Intelligence is able to regulate spontaneous moods and actions, cope with negative emotions in in fine fettle ways, take initiative, fulfill commitments, and adapt environmental changes.

Self-consciousness: A person with Emotional Intelligence is able to recognize his own emotions and how these affect his opinions and actions. Person become aware of his  strengths which become opportunity and flourishing point for him and weaknesses which are threat to his development and have self-confidence.

Social attentiveness: A person with Emotional Intelligence is able to know the feelings, wants/desires, and fears of other people, understand the emotional cues, feel relaxed, and know the power dynamic forces in a crowd or society.

Develop Healthy Relations: A person with Emotional Intelligence is able to develop and maintain good relationships, interconnect clearly, motivate and inspire others, work fine in a team, and cope with conflict in healthy way

Four Stage Model of Emotional Intelligence

Salovey and Mayer presented Four Stage Model of Emotional Intelligence (Salovey & Mayer, 1990; Snyder & Lopez, 2007) which is about

•         Recognizing emotions

•         Using emotions to assist thought

•         Accepting emotions

•         Dealing with emotions

            We mostly suppress our negative emotions, use denial defense mechanism to deal with  anxiety related to negative emotions. But in reality these emotions remains in our mind as it is and cause damage to our brain cells.

We need to deal with these emotions by first of all acknowledging that I am experiencing these negative emotions and feelings. Then try to find out the reasons or stressors behind the problem which result in experience of negative emotions. When you came to know about the root cause of stressor then you are now able do deal with this stressful situation. Make solution to deal with this problem and then implement the solution.

            A person with emotional intelligence deals with negative emotion in healthy way and build the effect of positive emotions.

Teaching of Emotional Intelligence

Salovey et al. (2002) continued that more than 300 program developers have began the teaching of EI. On this issue, circumstantial indication proposes that children, youth, and adults can be educated to use emotional practices to enrich their daily lives and can be prepared to deal with the good and bad events they meet. For example, we can communicate to people words expressing emotions, and we can explain people what are the reasons of emotions either positive or negative emotions. We can help somebody who is not good at Recognizing Emotions precisely to rise their accuracy level. These people are learning skills and getting knowledge, but their emotional intelligence themself may not be altering (Salovey et al. 2002); Snyder & Lopez, 2007)

Significance of EI

·                   Intelligence can create a relaxed and happy world, but it would be a inferior place without EI.

·                   Emotional intelligence benefits us through emotionally hurt times.

·                   Benefits in creating emotionally optimistic societal relationships.